How to be an introvert parent…without killing your children!

How to be an introvert parent

Have you discovered that you’re an introvert parent? Never fear, there are ways to actually love and enjoy those little people that are constantly underfoot! The basic definition of an introvert is someone who needs to be alone to recharge their internal batteries. Of course, being a parent rarely gives one a chance to be alone. Many hilarious posts have been written about escaping from children in the bathroom, and of course, all parents can identify. But for the introvert parent, the struggle is even more real! So how on earth can one be a good parent when your very temperament demands space, both mentally and physically and family itself demands closeness, both emotionally and physically? The following are some of the things that have worked to bring sanity and joy into our own family…without needing to run away! 1) Expect that I will be stretched as an introvert parent. … Read More

the misunderstood introvert

Article on raising an introverted child.

My eldest son has a hard time being with people for long periods of time. He gets rather squirrely: acting out, hurting others, grabbing toys. It drives everyone crazy, and I have often found myself trying not to be embarrassed when with friends. As a studious student in everything about him, I have recently realized that he is an introvert. Introverts NEED alone-time to recharge. They are typically quieter in social situations because they are processing the conversations inwardly, not audibly. Many introverts have the habit of thinking of what they are going to say before they say it, which we need more of in our world, but also means conversations tend to move on before the introvert can have their say. They like to think, they like to be alone. But they are not necessarily shy. In fact, many not-shy introverts are mistaken for extroverts, which is why I … Read More

talking about sex, pornography, and abuse with your kids

The best resources to help you start those conversations at home.

It’s time to get talking about sex. Well, sort of. You and I don’t need to talk about it. That would be weird. But we MUST talk to our kids about it. Unless we want our kids to absorb and emulate the world’s views on the topic, we must beat the world to the punch. Frankly, the world is a quick teacher. Children are accessing pornography at very young ages, often by accident (think about what would happen if they Googled “pussy”, looking for cat pictures). There are also many other children eager to initiate others into the club of understanding. Not sure if it’s actually the right time to talk to your kid about sex? Check out this fab blog post! My kids are too young (at 4, 6, and 9) for a lot of the resources out there, but we’ve already done quite a lot of age-appropriate teaching … Read More

Why I’m going to stop saying “NO” to my kids

Yes parenting

If your kids are anything like mine, you get peppered with questions at all times of day. “Can I put this paint in the freezer?” “Can I tie this rope to the banister and swing down the stairs?” “Can we eat outside?” (always asked when the weather is freezing cold) “Can I do finger painting?” “Can you jump on the trampoline with me?” “Can we make a fort under the table?” “Can we pile up every pillow, cushion, and blanket in the house at the bottom of the stairs and jump into it?” (aka ‘the bouncy castle’) “Can I fill up the squirt gun?” (again, in sub-zero temperatures) “Can you watch me do this thing?” I say NO a lot. Sometimes it’s a safety or health thing, but honestly, most of the time I say NO simply because I don’t want to be inconvenienced. It might be the thought of … Read More

when a mommy gets angry

angry mom

When I graduated from high school, my parents got me a gift. It came in a little box, it glowed in the dark, it was….a digital watch. As my dad watched me open it he said, “now you won’t be late anymore!” Thanks Dad. 🙂 Yes, I did tend to lose track of time. Did the watch help? A bit. Now, instead of ignoring time and being late, I was tending to the time and still being late! It’s a problem, I know. I’ve gotten a lot better over the years. But I do still lose track of time, particularly in the mornings. And a mother that loses track of time + three little boys who have no concept of time + a school that has a regular bell schedule = bad mornings. What do those bad mornings look like? They normally go something like this: 7:15 I get up … Read More

Three Truths To Remember When You’ve Been Disappointed By God

baby picture

I scrubbed crusty orange vomit from the white carpet stairs. How had I gotten to the place where I didn’t even have time to clean this up before it dried? For four years, two little boys had filled up my time and heart. I hadn’t exactly been desperate for another child. Two boys seemed like a nice, even number. They could be each other’s best friend forever, making messes and getting each other into trouble. My nose wrinkled at the acrid smell wafting through the stairwell. Both boys had been born via unplanned C-section, and that was enough surgery for me. The world had enough troubles of its own without adding more middle-class consumers. That’s what I told God. Then He spoke back. One day I walked across the parking lot to the gym, and He whispered to my heart: let me give you a daughter. The whisper was so … Read More